"So - in respect of dharma - please never tell anyone that they are doing it wrong. Please never tell anyone that they should not do what they are doing. Please never tell anyone that they cannot do this before they have done that; or that they should not make offerings in such a way; or that they are not ready for whatever. This is not a helpful or kind way to behave. You will see this behavior in many Buddhist centers - just don't emulate it. Observe the harm and friction it causes and maybe if the circumstances are right - help to pick up the pieces . . . if you can. People can be fragile. Fledgling practitioners can easily become discouraged by facist behavior. I've seen new people who never return to a center after this kind of treatment - and to be responsible for turning someone away from practice is grave to say the least."